A solar eclipse is a rare event indeed but no more rare than when I have every single one of my friends express their excitement and joy at the prospect of me never speaking to another friend again. It makes you start to wonder how much they have been holding back all of that time, and it makes me almost feel sympathy for them, as I have been that person. The person waiting and hoping that the other will wake the hell up and end the madness sooner rather than later.
Something that I have often noticed is that friends do not really dislike these other people for any reason other than the fact that they cause chaos and sadness in your life. If one day the other person woke up, changed and became an entirely different person (which is often what you have been hoping for this whole time anyway, let's face it) and stopped hurting and upsetting you, your friends would likely be hunky dory with them. It is often not the other person that they dislike, but instead, the witnessing of their friend's pain and turmoil that they cannot stand. Often the two are inseparable, however.
No one likes to see their friends or anyone else that they love suffer, and they often wish that they could impart the magic words or advice that will help their friend avoid the accident that they see looming ahead. You can see them sitting there, thinking to themselves, "They should really just take the local roads because the interstate is backed up." Unfortunately, many people often need to drive the routes for themselves to truly understand what is looming ahead, and even some of the greatest words of wisdom will not be fully understood until the person finally gets stuck in traffic. It is an unfortunate state of affairs, as often some of the best advice we are offered, we simply cannot accept in the spirit that it is given.
Sometimes the person attempting to provide this insight and wisdom will become too distracted from their own driving, in their attempt to help another, and will cause an accident of their own. They forget to keep their eyes on the road, and neglect the most crucial advice ever provided. The only thing that we can ever do in these situations is wait and hope. After all, one of those very people that all of my friends hated is now one of my best friends today.
Something that I have often noticed is that friends do not really dislike these other people for any reason other than the fact that they cause chaos and sadness in your life. If one day the other person woke up, changed and became an entirely different person (which is often what you have been hoping for this whole time anyway, let's face it) and stopped hurting and upsetting you, your friends would likely be hunky dory with them. It is often not the other person that they dislike, but instead, the witnessing of their friend's pain and turmoil that they cannot stand. Often the two are inseparable, however.
No one likes to see their friends or anyone else that they love suffer, and they often wish that they could impart the magic words or advice that will help their friend avoid the accident that they see looming ahead. You can see them sitting there, thinking to themselves, "They should really just take the local roads because the interstate is backed up." Unfortunately, many people often need to drive the routes for themselves to truly understand what is looming ahead, and even some of the greatest words of wisdom will not be fully understood until the person finally gets stuck in traffic. It is an unfortunate state of affairs, as often some of the best advice we are offered, we simply cannot accept in the spirit that it is given.
Sometimes the person attempting to provide this insight and wisdom will become too distracted from their own driving, in their attempt to help another, and will cause an accident of their own. They forget to keep their eyes on the road, and neglect the most crucial advice ever provided. The only thing that we can ever do in these situations is wait and hope. After all, one of those very people that all of my friends hated is now one of my best friends today.
Very true. When my first fiance and I broke up, my friends said things like, "That's the best news I've heard in a long time!" It was such a refrain that I was amazed and appalled none of them had expressed the sentiments about him to me while we were still together. (They said they didn't want to risk alienation, but I say tell your good friend if he/she is making an enormous mistake!)z
ReplyDeleteYeah, I see your point, but I also see your friends' point. It is quite possible that you wouldn't have listened to them anyway - I don't think I've ever had a friend listen to me.
ReplyDeleteso true so true..
ReplyDeleteor you can go the other route - delete the negative speakers from your life (or at least your cell phone)
wow that is so true!
ReplyDeleteI am witness to it a lot every day since about 10 men in my life are very overprotective and sometimes they think they know the route I should be on instead of letting me find my own way